Scrapbook paper to the left is by K&C company
Shona Cole of The Artistic Life (& author of The Artistic Mother) recently launched Mother Muses Monday a weekly column on her blog devoted to motherhood. Since she's one of my very favorite artsy mama bloggers I was thrilled to see her devoting a weekly column to this topic. I need all the pointers I can get! lol For today's column she posted her philosophy on parenting and asked readers to post about their own philosophies.
Having my daughter changed my world on a molecular level. Deep in my bones I feel different than I did before. Needed on a level I've never experienced. Joyfully in love and loved with pure acceptance and wonder. It is the most beautiful and amazing journey and I cherish each moment of it. What makes it even more precious is that I didn't really think I'd ever get here. Never really thought I'd find the right man to have a child with, then once I did I worried that having a baby would change or mess up the life we were building. Even though I VERY MUCH wanted her I had no idea how much of a joy having her would be. My heart expanded 10,000 %.
My philosophy on parenting is to love passionately, to listen to my instincts, and listen to my child. I instinctively felt a need to have her close to me and she seems happier and more secure when near her parents. So She sleeps in our bed. She and I bathe together. I carried her everywhere in a sling and never owned a baby carrier. It just didn't feel right for me to carry her around in a plastic seat when she could be snuggled against me. I listen to her cues regarding when she wants to eat or sleep and developed a natural routine that works with her rhythms. Each day is a new beginning and I try to meet her on her terms instead of expecting her to be what I want all the time. Every single day I tell her thank you for being my baby and I pray for her safety. I talk to her. I smother her with kisses and hugs. Despite, or maybe because of all the love and attention we lavish on her she's a very outgoing, bubbly baby; fascinated and unafraid of the world. I really want to help her to preserve this inate happiness and joy at being alive. I want to encourage her to explore, try new things, love to learn, and most of all I want to make sure she knows that she was wanted and loved and that just by existing she has made the world a tiny bit better. I hope to teach her that life can be hard but that it's also beautiful and that's what gets us through the rough times. I believe every child is a blessing and she is MOST DEFINITELY ours. She makes every day beautiful.
What is your parenting philosophy or just your thoughts on parenting? I'd love to know. If you decide to post about this at your blog, leave me a link so I can stop by and read it! And I encourage anyone reading this to check out Shona's blog, especially on Mondays, but it's a wonderful read no matter what the topic!